How to live the moment

It is come to my attention that at some point in life whether it is in our 20’s, 30’s or 40’s we might feel lost due to a disturbance of our life experience. I have been trying to figure out the meaning of “feeling lost”. It is a terminology most of us use when we are trying to find a purpose in life, or struggling with our identity. It is important to acknowledge the meaning of feeling lost. From my personal experience, when I was feeling lost, I had to come back to the present, and be in the moment, where I new I was safe. There were a lot of times where I got caught up planning the future, and talking about all this choices I had. It really made me feel lost, because I couldn’t figure out what was the best path or decision to take. However, it is important to know that regardless, of the situation, or the choices one has to make whether it leads us to success or failure we are still breathing. If you are breathing you are living. And if you are living you are learning. 

Last year was a little tough for me. It was my second year of marriage; I changed jobs three times, and at some point navigated two jobs while being in school. I was trying to find myself within the career I wanted to go into. I was really accelerating and juggling my life choices in one year. I am currently enrolled in a masters program for Clinical Mental Health Counseling. I am for sure passionate this is the path I want to take, of course it has not been easy trying to finish school, and working full time, but each day I know it is taking me to my life long goal. Yes, it is easy to go into social media and see everyone’s perfect life, but it is just a glimpse of their happy days. I will probably never post a picture of me crying past midnight, because I am so tired, and have no inspiration in writing a case behavioral plan for a class. However, I might show you that I finished the assignment, and that I aced the class. I will probably never show you the real struggle it is taking to finish this program. So let us not be so hard on ourselves. Let us love and care for ourselves a little more each day.

Listen to the Whisper of Love

Laughing our problems away. There were times I would take life so seriously, and wanted life according to society’s timeline. I know a lot of people have said “everyone has their own time line and to not get caught up with what society wants”. I understood soon enough that life was not a rush nor a competition. I had to take one step at a time. I had to stop at every step and enjoy it. I always had a an agenda with goals and plans of life. And boy, if that did not go accordingly to my plans, I would freak, and get anxious. However, this year I have let life be. Just going with the flow and started accepting where I am in life, and visualizing where I wanted to be without compromising myself or people around me. We are all uniquely different, and have so many gifts to share with this world. Gifts are not always materialistic things, it is sharing your love, joy, and kindness to others. Sometimes people just want someone to just listen, and to be there. You don’t always have to understand the thoughts or acts of people. You can listen and love.

Learning to be Patient!

Today I woke up grateful about where I am at in life. I may not have much, but I do have an amazing and supportive man as a husband. Now, I was not always grateful, I nagged a lot about where I was at in life, and always lived life wishing. Wishing to graduate from college, wishing for a better job, wishing for a better car, wishing for more money, wishing to be married, wishing, wishing, and wishing. It was never an end to my wishing. Do not get me wrong it is okay to desire, and have big dreams. However, it is important to desire it with a good attitude, and trusting the process in life. I would always ask my husband how he maintained a positive attitude during our hard times, and he would always say, ” I trust in God”. of course, I would look at him and say “SO DO I!! But I am still anxious!” I wanted to run and achieve my goals in life from one night to the next morning. I had to really learn the term PATIENCE. I worked with children with autism, and really thought I had this whole patience ability down. I was wrong. Patience is not only tolerating children’s behavior without getting upset or frustrated. There has to be a fundamental process to gain patience. I had to seek for an internal purpose in order to have the patience. My purpose as an RBT therapist, is to give a quality session that will make a difference in the long run. I may not see a difference in the child’s behavior the next day, but I probably will in a couple of months. I had to really take a look at my life, and analyze my purpose of being in this world. Live life step, by step, and enjoy the present.

Choose Joy!

My husband is very patient, loving, and kind. He shows me his love by covering me with the sheets when I fall asleep watching a movie. He takes care of me when I am sick, and he always makes sure I am comfortable. He always wants to make me happy. Is it not the dream of every girl? That the men make their wife happy. We all heard the term “happy wife, happy life”. Well, yesterday a speaker at our church, said that husbands are not to make us women happy, but to make us happier. So let’s break this down. Happy is only a temporary emotion. Now, it is important to understand that it is a huge responsibility allowing men to make us happy. It is the reason I believe it is important we find joy with oneself before we get into a serious relationship with our partner. It may seem that happy and joy fall into the same term. However, Joy is meaningful and internal. It comes from our spirit, so being joyful is not defined with pleasures of entertainments, but with moments, experiences, and achievements of others. It says in Romans 3: 3-5 “More than that, we rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character, and character produces hope, and hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us.” Regardless of our circumstance God will bring joy to our heart lasting a life time. Be joyful in the moment You are living.

Be Grateful

Life will not be easy. You will be weary. There are times in my life I feel with so much potential and strength to overcome obstacles. Other times I do not feel motivated to show up to my regular schedule. I have learn to show up, and be there, see where the world will take me. Observe your surrounding and where you are at the moment, and just be grateful. A special moment in time will not occur twice. Breathe, live, and be grateful. You are Blessed.