It is so easy to get lost in our own world, and not really care about your self, or your well-being. I sometimes get caught up with work, and school. I realized a lot of things that would upset me, or that would bring me happiness were fading. I started to care less, about others and about myself. I mean at some degree I would care, but I was not being present in the moment. There were people in my life who would sometimes drained me, and they slowly started to fade away on their own. I was not sure if that was the whole idea of being an adult, but along the way I started building new friendships. Friendships that I knew would last a life time. Friendships who are there physically, emotionally, and spiritually. I realized the true meaning of friendship was not always going wild, telling secrets, or talk about girl drama. When hanging out It became personal, and meaningful. It would nourished my soul, and I became more present with my friendships. I started to grow personally and professionally in my career. I do not know where my future is headed, but I know that I will be present, and aware of my senses.
Today I woke up grateful about where I am at in life. I may not have much, but I do have an amazing and supportive man as a husband. Now, I was not always grateful, I nagged a lot about where I was at in life, and always lived life wishing. Wishing to graduate from college, wishing for a better job, wishing for a better car, wishing for more money, wishing to be married, wishing, wishing, and wishing. It was never an end to my wishing. Do not get me wrong it is okay to desire, and have big dreams. However, it is important to desire it with a good attitude, and trusting the process in life. I would always ask my husband how he maintained a positive attitude during our hard times, and he would always say, ” I trust in God”. of course, I would look at him and say “SO DO I!! But I am still anxious!” I wanted to run and achieve my goals in life from one night to the next morning. I had to really learn the term PATIENCE. I worked with children with autism, and really thought I had this whole patience ability down. I was wrong. Patience is not only tolerating children’s behavior without getting upset or frustrated. There has to be a fundamental process to gain patience. I had to seek for an internal purpose in order to have the patience. My purpose as an RBT therapist, is to give a quality session that will make a difference in the long run. I may not see a difference in the child’s behavior the next day, but I probably will in a couple of months. I had to really take a look at my life, and analyze my purpose of being in this world. Live life step, by step, and enjoy the present.
My husband is very patient, loving, and kind. He shows me his love by covering me with the sheets when I fall asleep watching a movie. He takes care of me when I am sick, and he always makes sure I am comfortable. He always wants to make me happy. Is it not the dream of every girl? That the men make their wife happy. We all heard the term “happy wife, happy life”. Well, yesterday a speaker at our church, said that husbands are not to make us women happy, but to make us happier. So let’s break this down. Happy is only a temporary emotion. Now, it is important to understand that it is a huge responsibility allowing men to make us happy. It is the reason I believe it is important we find joy with oneself before we get into a serious relationship with our partner. It may seem that happy and joy fall into the same term. However, Joy is meaningful and internal. It comes from our spirit, so being joyful is not defined with pleasures of entertainments, but with moments, experiences, and achievements of others. It says in Romans 3: 3-5 “More than that, we rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character, and character produces hope, and hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us.” Regardless of our circumstance God will bring joy to our heart lasting a life time. Be joyful in the moment You are living.
So it is now August! Where has time gone. I mean were we not celebrating New years yesterday??? Life can past by us at a fast pace that we do not have time to even breathe, and look at the world outside of our bubble. So let lets remember to enjoy the moment we are living at. We might not get that exact moment ever again. Take time to breathe, go for a walk, meditate, talk to a love one or an old friend, make today meaningful. You don’t have to wait for that career, or for financial stability to live in the moment, all you need is to be breathing. I remember waking up some days and thinking what a bad day it already has been, and just wanting the week to end. I now believe I can turn my days around by just doing something I love, rather than contemplating about life. Let go of anything that is bringing your spirit down, and let God take control of your path. Listen to his voice, and you will go places you wouldn’t imagine. Dream BIG.
I am a human with so many flaws. I have gained and lost friends. It’s part of life as we grow older and develop into our new stage of life. Each stage it’s so crucial, you will not only learn so much about yourself, but you learn how much your presence can affect others. I have to remind myself to keep on pushing. If I am breathing than I need to live a beautiful life. There are moments in my life that I feel behind or left out within the generations. Growing into a positive mindset takes time, and practice. Trusting the process of our destiny. We don’t always wake up everyday and like the persona that is reflected in the mirror. Sometimes we will feel discouraged, and even contemplate life. Everyone has doubted their purpose in life once.
I encourage you to keep pushing and breathing this beautiful life. Be yourself, and always stand to what you believe in. Always trust the purpose. A tree grows every year, and regardless of the changes in the environment, it evolves within the seasons each year. A tree will never stop being a tree during cold winter days. So you will never stop being you regardless of your environment changes. You will grow, and evolve exactly where you need to be in life.
My husband and I have been married for almost 2 years, and today marks 8 years of being together!!!! I seriously can’t believe how much time has passed by. It has been quite the journey. We have learned so much about each other. We have learned to love, to be patient, and to be more caring. Each relationship is unique we all have our differences. Trust me when I say relationships can get really complicated and messy. It is the reason we need to nourish our relationship daily. As the years pass by we acknowledge our flaws and weaknesses, so we accept them and help each other achieve our goals. Our first year of marriage was not easy at all. We really had to compromise in so many aspects of our life. Financially was one of them, and we managed slowly to budget, and invest for our future. We are both in school at the moment, and well it has been a little stressful. However, we make sure each week we have time for the both of us. We started a new routine each night before bed, and it has helped us in our relationship so much. Each night before we go to bed we will talk about our day, our goals, dreams, desires, and we read a little scripture following with prayer. Let me just say this routine has really helped our spiritual and mental health. It is important we are both spiritually, mentally, and physically healthy. In a relationship we are two in one. We are two different people who decided to be devoted to each other, and love unconditionally. I am not always motivated to keep going, sometimes I am drained, and stress can get the best of me. However, I know I have a partner who is supportive, loving, and lift me up when I feel at my lowest. At the end of the day, we need each other to keep on going in life, and to achieve all of our goal. Remember who you are, and your purpose of your own destiny.
I am not the person who takes life too seriously. I am free spirited, and respect everyones opinion about life and their beliefs. I am aware we are all different and unique in our own special way. There are times in our life we end a chapter to start a new one. There was a teacher in my high school who would always say “it’s okay to start all over”. However, I don’t believe we necessarily start all over. We simply start a new mission in life, and take everything we have learned to accomplish our ultimate purpose. You live and you learn. You breathe and you believe. You laugh and you love!
Last night as I was getting ready for bed, I thought of my journey in life so far. It has not been an easy path, but I have learned so much about myself as a person. I have grown and taken leaps of faith. I have learned to trust the process. God has a purpose and a plan for our life don’t give up. Life is beautiful, and yes sometimes is not always so bright. However, opening our eyes, walking step by step, listening to our heart, speaking truth, and being able to breathe has given me the ability to be grateful. I have always been scared of the unknown, I fear not knowing what tomorrow holds. I am still learning to trust in God and not fear of my future. I am growing and learning. I am outstanding, I am intelligent, I am beautiful, and I live a life with purpose. Be kind and loving to yourself everyday.
It is important to put yourself first. Take care of your well-being. Relax and breath. There will be obstacles in life that will disrupt our daily living, so it will be essential for us to put our self in a healthy mindset. Five easy steps to do daily for self-care:
- Meditate. Take five minutes daily to meditate clear your mind, and breathe.
- Be grateful. Think of all the blessing you have.
- Exercise. Move your body at least 30 min daily.
- Self-love. Say something positive about yourself whether is internal or external.
- Eat healthy. Your body is a beautiful temple, eat for a purpose.